How to Cope and Move Forward
The holiday season is supposed to be the most joyous and wonderful time of the year. However, for those who are contemplating divorce, this season can be especially tumultuous and painful. It's normal to feel overwhelmed, stressed, and emotional during this time, but it's important to remember that you don't have to go through it alone. In this blog post, I will provide you with some tips and advice on how to cope with the emotions that come along with considering divorce during the holidays.
Give Yourself Permission to Feel:
It's okay to feel sad, angry, and resentful during the holidays. Give yourself permission to cry, vent, and acknowledge your feelings. However, it's important to make sure that you have a healthy outlet for that energy. Schedule regular sessions with your therapist, take long walks or go hiking, journal your thoughts or try practicing yoga. Remember that self-care is essential during a stressful time, and getting some fresh air and exercise can help reboot your mood.
It may be tempting to try and pretend that everything is perfect so that you can eliminate the appearance of any tension at the big family gathering. However, this can be completely counterproductive in many situations. Have realistic expectations for yourself and your surroundings and Allow yourself to stay calm and collected at times. This will also give you the confidence and power to tackle any issues in your relationship with a clear head.
Create a Support System:
Going through a divorce can be a long and lonely journey. However, surround yourself with supportive people who can help you cope, including close friends, family members, or professionals like divorce coaches or financial consultants. Joining a support group can also put you in contact with other people who are going through similar situations.
It's crucial to plan ahead, especially during the holiday season. If you think about what's coming your way, prepare yourself mentally and even with things like finances, can help ease the load. Make a list of the things you need to accomplish, and try to stick with a routine that allows you to be productive and get things done. Remember to remain present in the moment, this will help you appreciate the positive aspects of your life during this season.
Even though you may want to put other people first during the holidays, it's essential to prioritize your own happiness and well-being. Instead of trying to please everyone else, focus on what makes you happy and provides you with a sense of peace of mind. Do the things that bring you joy, whether it’s time with friends, yoga classes or your daily walk. Prioritizing yourself is all about setting boundaries and doing things that give you meaning.
Divorce is tough, but you don’t have to go through it alone. Remember that it’s okay to feel sad and overwhelmed during the holiday season. Allow yourself time to grieve and heal as you work through all the emotions that come up. Create a support system and a plan that allows you to prioritize your own self-care. In doing so, you’ll be able to navigate the holiday season before, during, and after divorce more smoothly. Reach out, stay positive, and remember that there is light at the end of the tunnel. With the right mindset and a strong support system, you’re on the right track to making it through the holiday season and all the other seasons, too.
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