Updated: Apr 29
“Divorce isn’t such a tragedy. A tragedy’s staying in an unhappy marriage, teaching your children the wrong things about love. Nobody ever died of divorce.”
― Jennifer Weiner
It can be hard to see past the immediate pain and sadness of a divorce, but it's important to recognize that it is not the end of the world. Divorce can bring many positive changes for both parties involved. It allows people to make new choices and have the freedom to focus on themselves in ways they weren't able to when
When faced with a difficult decision about your relationship, it can be hard to decide if divorce is the right move or not. While the traditional view of divorce may be negative, there are actually many benefits that come from getting a divorce in certain situations. Divorce can actually lead to improved wellbeing for both parties involved.
For example, divorce may enable each person to focus on their own needs and goals without being consumed by managing or fixing the problems of the marriage. When two people don't fit together in a happy way and staying together is causing more harm than good, then they have an opportunity to part ways and make new lives for themselves - potentially happier ones.
It’s important to remember that when making the decision to divorce, it is a personal choice and there is no right or wrong answer.
As a divorce coach, I understand that those going through this transition need personalized guidance and support in order to make the best decisions for their future. So if you are considering whether or not divorce could be beneficial for your situation, don’t hesitate to reach out - I'm here to help.
No matter what you decide, take some time to focus on yourself and your needs. Don’t be afraid to explore options that can help improve your wellbeing,
Ultimately, only you can decide if divorce is the right decision for your relationship. But if you are considering this option, know that it doesn't have to be negative. With the right guidance and support, divorce can even be a positive experience.
So don’t be afraid to explore your options and make the best decision for yourself. I'm here to help!
Read more below to discover some ways women report feeling after divorce that end with the answer Yes to the question
“Can Divorce be a good thing”
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From some of our research:
“One influential study by economists Andrew Oswald and Jonathan Gardner finds that divorcees, unlike widows and widowers, are happier one year after the marriage ends than they were while still married.” https://slate.com/culture/2008/01/the-logic-of-life-divorce-is-good-for-women.ht
“75 percent of divorced women report having no regrets over the decision to part,”
“It's possible divorced women who are managing their own portfolio may have weathered the current tumultuous year better than those with husbands calling the investment shots”...”After a divorce, women have the opportunity to take over their own retirement planning, which could be a financial positive in the long run.”..”Divorce can be difficult for children, but there is one place where they come out ahead: college financial aid.” https://money.usnews.com/money/personal-finance/articles/little-known-financial-benefits-of-divorce
“Divorcing is not only a legal separation – it untangles your financial ties, too. And if financial decisions are one of the pain points in your marriage, then one of the positive effects of divorce is that it can also mark the end of arguments over money.” –Lyle Solomon
“You are the gatekeeper to your life and your home. You get to decide who or what comes in and what needs to stay out. If it doesn't contribute to the peaceful home you are now trying to have, then it should stay out.” ― Jen Grice, You Can Survive Divorce: Hope, Healing, and Encouragement for Your Journey
“I decided to create a home from scratch, something that would reflect my tastes and preferences with a combination of objects and energy that would add up to a safe and inviting space for the people and experiences I wanted to welcome into my life.” …
I could create my ideal home, a dream that I had previously deferred in the interest of family harmony.” ― Ranjani Rao, Rewriting My Happily Ever After - A Memoir of Divorce and Discovery
Children & Child-Care
“I’ve learned that divorce can also be an act of radical self-love that leaves the whole family better off. My divorce nearly seven years ago freed me from a relationship that was crushing my spirit. It freed my children, then 5 and 3, from growing up in a profoundly unhealthy environment.” https://www.nytimes.com/2021/09/30/opinion/divorce-children.html
“Several studies published during the 1990s found that marital conflict was a more important factor in child development than divorce, Kelly writes. “https://www.webmd.com/parenting/news/20000801/when-divorce-is-best-for-children